It’s incredibly easy to experience burnout, especially when you’re someone who tends to prioritize others over yourself and struggles with setting boundaries.
Let me introduce myself: I’m a 51-year-old, single parent of three wonderful boys, and life has been an amazing teacher. Throughout this journey, I’ve discovered so much about myself, my limits, and even some unexpected lessons about menopause!
Over the years, I’ve become quite skilled at establishing and reevaluating my boundaries. But as life keeps evolving, with added responsibilities, teenage kids, and the rollercoaster ride of midlife hormones, adjustments become necessary. The midlife phase is a time of immense change, not just physically and biologically, but emotionally as well. We’re sending kids to college, caring for aging parents, nurturing relationships, and managing menopause symptoms. In the midst of all this change, it’s easy to feel a bit adrift, disconnected, and disempowered, as if life is happening to us rather than being controlled by us.
Our initial reaction often tends to be all-or-nothing thinking. It’s like a pendulum swinging wildly between extremes until we find that elusive sweet spot in the middle, just like Goldilocks.
However, it’s crucial to understand that equilibrium constantly shifts as new experiences unfold. It’s similar to how our bed size increases as we grow older or how we occasionally adjust the firmness of our mattress. Without these regular adjustments, burnout becomes a looming threat.
What worked for us in the past may no longer be suitable for our current circumstances. Alternatively, if you had no boundaries before, you might be grappling with the symptoms of neglecting your mental, physical, and relational well-being.
Here are some of the adjustments I’m making to safeguard against burnout:
Firstly, I’ve given myself permission to modify relationships, conversations, and my workload. This came with a deep understanding of why these changes are valuable.
I’m accepting that I might not have all the answers at once. Recognizing that my needs are ever-changing, I’m approaching this as a layered process. Sometimes, it takes overcommitting to realize that adjustments are needed.
Learning to say ‘NO’ is a vital skill. It’s about fiercely protecting your energy and personal space without turning into a recluse. Discipline plays a key role in this, as sometimes we must do things we’d rather avoid.
Remember, the ruthless protection of your energetic space is a cornerstone of optimal health.
You can apply these principles to your life, even if you’re not in the same phase as me. I’ve found immense value in learning from individuals in different life stages, as it helps me avoid comparing myself and focus on my own journey.
IF you are ready to go further, here´s how I can help:
With over 20 years of experience in supporting people of all ages. I bring a supportive, educational environment. I believe every woman should have the tools and support she needs to optimize her menopause.
Mastering menopause through Nutrition – Lifestyle – Hormones – Stress management.