Have you ever started your week with the best plans, and meal preps, blocked out time in your diary, and you got everything perfect? But then, somewhere along the way you got tempted and started binge eating on the weekends. Perhaps it’s because of a cooking show that you watched or because of an ad we scrolled past on social media. Perhaps it was simply a physical sensation. An irrational urge to eat….
Perhaps it was a craving for how food would make you feel – the sense of release and being able to zone out!
Whatever the cause, it causes our cravings to start to build up. We get thoughts of wanting to be “free” or to release ourselves from the shackles of self-discipline. We get tempted to binge eat “for the last time” just to “make sure” we were really committed. At the back of our heads, we also get thoughts of just starting all over again when we can.
Other thoughts may be telling us that we deserve it and that we need to take a break sometimes.
Depending on our levels of focus, fatigue, and the amount of energy that we have, it will be hard for us to resist all these intrusive thoughts that will make us binge eat again. At some point, you may even find yourself scrounging for food without realising it. It will be as if someone else took over your mind.
It truly all begins with an internal struggle – us arguing with ourselves and justifying ourselves as much as we can. This comes with a lot of “So what?”, and “I don’t care anymore” and “You deserve it, you’ve been working really hard, life’s for living, life’s all about balance.” What makes this even worse is that these thoughts are often associated with the feeling of release, relief, or freedom which makes us want it more.
This is then followed by feelings of guilt, disgust, and disappointment in ourselves. Then we try to pick ourselves up and promise ourselves all over again that it wouldn’t happen again and that we wouldn’t succumb to such temptations in the future.
This is the beginning of another cycle that we are doomed to fail once more. This is why we must reevaluate our position and consider all of our blindspots. We can’t hope to fix our problems with the same kind of mindset that we started with.
For example, if all we’ve been doing all this time is just powering through our diets through willpower, then willpower alone will not get us through this time no matter how many times we try over and over again. We simply cannot keep on using the same solutions that have failed us over and over.
There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s just that willpower makes urges, cravings, and binge eating WORSE, not better!
So what we first need to understand is that the problem with binge eating is a learned behaviour. This is because, over the years, we have reinforced certain patterns of behaviours that encourage us to binge eat all the time.
So what we really need to do is to build a better system that can enable us to resist such temptations physically and emotionally. In other words, we need a solution that is complete and not half-baked. Even, if we have all the secret tips, or easy shortcuts to motivate ourselves in the beginning, it wouldn’t work if we don’t have a proper solution in place!
What I’ve noticed throughout the years of helping midlife women eliminate binge eating and compulsive behaviours around food once and for all, is that luck has absolutely nothing to do with it!
A proper solution sets us up for a complete emotional, and behavioral change that can affect us physically in a positive way as well. So quick fixes and shortcuts will really not cut it when it comes to looking for solutions to binge eating especially on the weekends.
Therefore if you are looking for a proper solution, then I’m here to help you. Simply contact me and I can offer you guidance and coaching on how to free yourself from all these struggles with food and binge eating.
What we need when we are struggling with these kinds of problems are not just coping mechanisms or short-term fixes, rather, we need solutions that can help us in the long run. Some of these solutions include empowering ourselves, enhancing our self-belief, and confidence, and most of all, taking back control of our lives.
Binge eating on the weekends unexpectedly is just one of the ways that our lack of control manifests and it is time that you receive help in taking this control back.