If you’ve ever felt insecure about your body or felt that you were lacking something, then you must know that you are not alone in this struggle. You must also be aware that your insecurities and self-doubt aren’t entirely your fault.
We are surrounded by people and social media constantly setting up impossibly high standards of beauty for us to achieve. For instance, there are a lot of influencers or trainers out there giving out erroneous advice that is not catered to beginners and tends to make them lose motivation. While many of them mean well, it can be harmful to teach techniques that can demotivate people right at the starting line.
In line with this, many of the practices taught online tend to work only in the short run and tend to neglect the possibility of having a long-term solution instead. Most of the things you’ll see them teaching often tend to make you rely on your self-control or discipline. So much so that once you break apart from the routine they recommend, it can make you lose even more confidence than what you started with.
This is why you’ll often hear so many women complaining that it starts out well for them, but with just one slip up, they spiral down into a pit of despair and lack of self-trust and discipline.
Probably the biggest complaint you’ll hear from women struggling with their weight is something along the lines of…
“I’m good for a while, and then it all goes to s**t!”
Essentially, many of the practices taught about losing weight online make you lose trust either in yourself or in your body. It makes them think that they are not in control of their own minds and that they are too weak to handle and discipline themselves. It makes them lose trust in their bodies too as they will think that all the fat they lost will just return in an instant. It makes them think that without calculating every single grain of calorie they take in, their body will suddenly gain more weight in a flash.
So now we are left with an entire group of women who feel insecure about themselves and unsure of what they are even really capable of…
It leaves so many of them too dependent on scales and counting the number of calories they eat per meal that they often break down and end up eating more due to emotional outbursts caused by depriving themselves. Just imagine eating out with your friends and having to restrict yourself and count every calorie you eat before you can even have fun with them. It makes them miss out on a lot of the good parts of their lives.
Using short-term “tools” as “lifelong” management strategies. It is SO short-sighted. We are not robots, we have to manage human behaviour and stop being ignorant of it.
So what can we do?
First, you need to understand that losing weight isn’t just something physical, you will encounter many psychological barriers that prevent you from losing weight as well. We need an approach to nutrition that educates and navigates the dichotomy of fat loss. An approach that creates the physiological effects we’re after whilst working WITH your psychology instead of AGAINST it. Remember that our bodies tend to resist change and like to maintain balance in their current state.
Secondly, you have to stop being a perfectionist. Constantly counting how many calories you eat and praying everyday that you don’t surpass your total daily calorie limit will just put additional stress and anxiety on you. Be confident and make wiser decisions when it comes to food.
Personal growth requires two key areas-
your identity, and your values. Effective decision making in life is about being values driven, not rules driven.
If you need precise rules and numbers you don’t trust yourself and you can’t think for yourself. That is disempowering.
We need to be empowered. Remember that no one can limit you on what you are capable of doing. You are your own person and do not need to conform to somebody else’s high standards. When we have clarity on your sense of self and your values, you can navigate the many grey areas with ease and confidence, you do everything at your own pace, appreciate every bit of progress you make, and learn to love yourself every step of the way!
WANT TO ELIMINATE LOW SELF-WORTH AND DIETING ONCE AND FOR ALL?
Love Louise xx