Understanding fat loss is first and foremost an emotional problem.
You see no matter how many nutritional books you read, how many diet fads you learn about, excessive exercise, learning intuitive eating, learning about hormones and metabolism is not going to fix it, if you don’t have your impulses and emotions in check, then nothing good is going to happen to you. The real cause it those “moments” – your thought habits and emotional habits.
Here are some moments you have to watch out for that will definitely derail you in your weight loss journey, here are a few examples:
“It’s not worth it!”
There are moments where you may feel like losing weight feels more like a chore you have to finish rather than something you actually want to do or to achieve. So you sit there in the gym wondering why are you even working yourself out and tiring yourself intentionally when you can just binge eat and nothing you did matters.
There are plenty of causes for this, but the most common one could be because you don’t have enough clarity over what you want and why you want it – not having a clear vision of your goal. It’s certainly hard to pursue a goal when you don’t know exactly why you’re doing it, right? Or maybe emotionally you’ve connected more pain to the process of changing your body than not changing.
“I don’t actually want to do this”
There are times when you have to ask yourself, “Do I actually want to keep on doing this?” If your answer is no, then that may be at the root of your problems with weight loss inconsistency. In addition, feeling obligated to do something for your weight as we’ve mentioned earlier, will more likely make you feel like you don’t actually want to keep on doing what you’ve been doing for weight loss.
“It’s not everyday I get to eat something like this!”
You´ve trained your brain into scarcity.
This is probably one of the most common phrases said before a weight loss disaster. You have been depriving yourself of meals you actually enjoy that when you see one, you see, smell, and taste it as something that’s a luxury.
This is why many of us “accidentally” overeat whenever we encounter our temptation foods. You take an all-or-nothing approach to food. Try cutting out favourite foods quite often leads to these moments.
“I’m so stressed!”
Stress-eating and emotional eating is also another recipe for weight loss disaster. When you’ve been stressed constantly, you tend to look for an outlet to release it. This outlet commonly comes in the form of food. If you’re suffering from chronic stress and overwhelm, you literally can’t think straight. Your brain will disconnect access to the cortex – the intelligent part of the brain, and activate “fight, flight, or freeze”.
In this state you don’t care about the big picture, you just desperately need a moment of release and that´s understandable.
However, most people blame life – the kids, their partner, their boss, their job, the market, the uncertainty, etc for their stress.
I’m not denying that you have lots of demands and responsibilities. All of my clients are super busy with demanding jobs or businesses and family life too.
However, you may also want to watch out for other underlying issues that may disturb you and cause you to feel stressed and overwhelmed. It’s learned habits and behaviours such as…
• Imposter syndrome
• Lack of confidence
• Over worrying
• Low self-esteem
Now you’re not just normally tired after a busy day, you’re burnt out, exhausted, and in desperate need of release and when you have these issues on top of the stress you pile up during the day, stress will tend to make you want to burst and break from the pressure. Hence, you look for the comfort of food.
“My goals are too hard!”
Having unreachable and unrealistic goals is also another problem our clients commonly encounter. All the lives we have been taught to look a certain way, to weigh a certain way, and even to behave in a certain way for us to be loved by everyone.
However, you don’t have to put yourself into this box. You don’t have to trap yourself inside everybody’s expectations. Do your weight loss journey for yourself only.
Hence, if you want to make your weight loss journey hassle-free and consistent, you need to remove all the emotional blockades first. Remove all these things that make you trip up or at least have them in your control. This way, you can make sure that you will have control over your impulses. Lastly, you also need to remember that you are doing this not for anybody else, but for yourself to make yourself happy.
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